Leadership Level 1: Self-Leadership | Pitfall 3 – Identity Resistance

We’ve covered two major traps: emotions that delay action, and perfectionism that paralyzes it. But there’s a deeper, sneakier obstacle that shows up when you're actually making progress — and it’s called identity resistance.

Pitfall 3: Identity Resistance

• “This isn’t me.”
• “Who do I think I am to lead like this?”
• “People are going to think I’ve changed.”

This isn’t laziness. It’s a clash between the old you and the leader you're becoming.

What’s Really Happening:

Our brains crave consistency. The moment you start to show up differently—more disciplined, more vocal, more courageous—your internal identity system freaks out.

It whispers, “That’s not who we are.”

And if you’re not careful, you’ll unconsciously sabotage your growth just to return to the comfort of your familiar self.

This is why people quit when things are going well. Not because they’re failing—but because they’re evolving.

Transformation Goal:

Recognize that identity resistance is a sign of growth, not a signal to stop.

Your goal is to:

• Normalize the discomfort of internal change
• Build a new internal story that supports your leadership future
• Step into alignment with your next-level self

This is the inner rebranding of self-leadership.

Coaching Cue:

“It’s not that you’re losing yourself—you’re finally leading yourself.”

You’re not faking it. You’re upgrading. Let your actions lead the way, and let your identity catch up.

Next up: Pitfall 4 – Momentum Crash — the moment when your initial fire fades and discipline must take over.

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